Seating of Guests/Family
Friends and family, we have come together to witness the joining of Amy and John in Matrimony. This is a special time of celebration that Amy and John will long remember, and because of this, they are thankful that you are here to share their joy.
Amy and John, today is one of the happiest days of your lives. A marriage is a promise to be kind and understanding, to be thoughtful, considerate, and to share one life together. This love you share will grow with caring kindness, compassion and tenderness. Your love for one another will bond you body, spirit, and soul. Marriage begins a life of giving and sharing, nurturing and support. Allow each other the freedom to change and grow as individuals while developing your mutual spirit as time goes on.
Presentation of Roses As Amy and John come before us to be married, they wish to acknowledge and thank their parents Edward and Grace and Robert and Emma for the love and support that they have given them throughout the years. The flowers that they give to their parents today represent the feelings of gratitude in the hearts of Amy and John. This moment marks a major change in their lives, but the ties of love and friendship will continue forever.
Often marriage is viewed as the coming together of only two persons. In reality, however, marriage is much broader. As we give thanks for the love that brings Amy and John together, so, too, we recognize the merging of families taking place and the additional love and responsibility family and friends bring to this relationship.
As part of the family nature of marriage, they recognize Samantha and James (CHILDREN) and the very important role they play in this relationship celebrated today. Amy and John present to Samantha and James this gift as a symbol of family unity. In the giving of this gift, they pledge to you their continuing love even as they surround you now with their arms of support and protection.
An Ancient Irish Blessing
May the blessing of light be with you always;light without and light within.May the sun shine upon you and warm your heart,Until it glows like a great fireso that others may feel the warmth of it,And may the light of your eyesshine like two candle lights,In a window at night bidding the wanderer,to come in out of the dark and the coldAnd may the blessings of the rain be upon you;the sweet and tender rainMay it fall upon your spiritas when flowers spring up and fragrance fills the airAnd may the blessing of the great rain,wash you clean and fair,And may the storms always leave you strongerand more beautiful.
And when the rains are over,may there be clear pools of water,made beautiful by the radiance of your light,As when a star shines beautiful in the night,pointing the way for all of us.
Declaration of Intent
John and Amy, have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage/ We have
Will you love and honor each other as husband and wife for as long as you both shall live? We will.
Exchange of Vows/Rings
The circle has long been a symbol for marriage. These circles are made of precious metal to represent the precious nature of your relationship. Being unbroken circles, each represents unending love. As often as either of you look upon these rings, may you be reminded of this moment and the love you have promised.
John, please repeat after me: I John, take you,Amy, to be my partner, in marriage and in life, to love you and honor you, to be honest and faithful to you, to give thanks for you, to stand by you and care for you all the days of my life. I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and that I am choosing to share my whole life’s journey with you. I give you this ring with the pledge to love you, today, tomorrow, and always.
Amy please repeat after me: I Amy, take you, John, to be my partner, in marriage and in life, to love you and honor you, to be honest and faithful to you, to give thanks for you, to stand by you and care for you all the days of my life. I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and that I am choosing to share my whole life’s journey with you. I give you this ring with the pledge to love you, today, tomorrow, and always.
Lighting of Unity Candle
Marriage brings together two people in a unique relationship. In their togetherness, they may share many experiences as if they were one person. But each retains his or her own identity. The miracle of love is that it allows us to overcome our sense of isolation, yet continues to permit us our uniqueness as individuals.
From the Prophet comes affirmation of the togetherness and uniqueness that is at the heart of the marriage relationship:
Love one another, but make not a bond of love
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls
Fill each others cup but drink not from one cup
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts
And stand together, yet not too near togetherness
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak and the cypress grow not in each
John and Amy , will you take the candles representing your individual lives and, together, combine your light with the center candle to symbolize strength and beauty you will bring to each other as husband and wife. The candle is lit.
Today you have pledged yourselves to a lifetime of caring for one another. May your togetherness bring you joy and comfort, and may your uniqueness continue to challenge you to love life with courage and creativity
By your free choice you have made a marriage.
No matter what the demands on your lives and your time,
The meaning of your living is now known through your love.
You must nurture each other to fullness and wholeness,
renew yourselves in love and laughter, maintain the capacity for wonder, spontaneity, humor, sensitivity, and save time for each other.
To love each other more deeply and learn to love more fully the Creation in which the mystery of love happens.
Declaration of Marriage
Before this gathering, Amy and John have promised each other their undying love and have exchanged rings to wear as a sign of their everlasting commitment to each other. By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife. John, you may kiss the bride!